Emotional Terrors in the Workplace

EMOTIONAL TERRORS IN THE WORKPLACE:
PROTECTING YOUR BUSINESS' BOTTOM LINE
EMOTIONAL CONTINUITY MANAGEMENT IN THE WORKPLACE
By Vali Hawkins Mitchell, Ph.D., LMHC
Philip Jan Rothstein, FBCI, Editor

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Published by Rothstein Associates, Inc.
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ENDORSED BY THE BUSINESS CONTINUITY INSTITUTE (BCI)

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If you want to see the true measure of managers, watch how they treat his subordinates, not
his peers.

This book is about being an empathetic manager, a manager who acts with emotionally
sensitive certainty and then lets those actions speak for themselves. It is NOT the fuzzy,
sissy-type, right-brained mush all managers are taught to avoid. Nor is it a guide to the
insincere “I feel your pain” style of management. Rather, it is a straightforward look at the
cost of emotional corrosion in the workplace and how it affects the bottom line.

A variety of quizzes and self-analyses will help you discover what type of manager you are
and case studies connect the type of manager (and management behavior) to forecast
success or the need for more effort. There are also lists of all types of employees and how to
recognize the destructive emotional dislocations they can cause. A methodology for
calculating the cost of emotional distress and disturbance is also included.

There is a real cost involved with workplace emotional distress. Are you willing to continue to
pay it, or will you protect your business' bottom line? Emotional Terrors in the Workplace is
an interesting, comprehensive, and constructive approach to adding the key ingredient of
empathy into your role as a manager.

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I began writing this book after being hired by a company because two highly trained
professionals engaged in a fist-fight in the lunchroom. This was a violent example of what can
happen when workplace business and emotions collide. A good fiscal decision to remove an
old vending machine clashed with the emotional need for this old relic that was sacred to
night-shift employees. Bottom-line needs crashed into emotional needs with an outcome of
12 resignations and losses above $100,000.00. The business suffered. The employees
suffered. This was not the first time I had seen employee emotions devastate companies and
companies disenfranchise human feelings. The tools I present are some I have used myself
through personal disasters, and professional services such as working as a Trauma
Counselor after the World Trade Center Attacks. They also serve my private and corporate
clients. You might appreciate this book if:
- Your manager makes insane demands
- You are managing an emotional free-for-all
- A co-worker is grieving a catastrophic personal loss, angry, ill, or just annoying
- An employee stirs up others like an emotional tornado
- You work with or manage an Emotional Terrorist
- Your business or your life has experienced a catastrophe

Businesses need to make money or there will be no jobs. People need to have appropriate
feelings or they will not be healthy. EMOTIONAL TERRORS IN THE WORKPLACE;
PROTECTING YOUR BUSINESS’ BOTTOM LINE provides well-tested Emotional Continuity
Management tools that bridge human emotional dynamics with the fiscal demands of a
company.

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EXCERPT FROM THE PREFACE
by James E. Lukaszewski

The failure to adequately address the victims and the emotional dimensions of corporate
problems is what changes adverse events into crises and catastrophes. Buildings can be
replaced; machines can be fixed; products can be re-engineered and re-marketed; but leaving
the needs of victims unmet, denied, or trivialized, and failing to address the emotional impact
of events and behaviors can cause permanent damage and often defines careers.

EMOTIONAL TERRORS IN THE WORKPLACE: PROTECTING YOUR BUSINESS' BOTTOM
LINE is an interesting, comprehensive, and constructive approach to adding this key
management ingredient to the manager's role. This book's goal is to arm the individual with
enough information and structure to persuade the boss to take a shot at adding this skill and
knowledge that will help managers and leaders preempt or at least begin to recognize the
signs of corrosive emotional distress.

Two great weaknesses of today's business and management education are the intentional
de-emphasis of the emotional component of work and working life, and only the flimsiest,
most circumspect teaching of integrity and workplace ethics. These concepts are, in reality,
connected. When a boss has difficultly managing or even acknowledging the emotional
dimension of problems, the first response of observers is to question the ethics, humanity, or
empathy of the manager faced with the problem. From the perspective of the victim of such
behavior, the thoughtless, dollar-driven manager seems more like a perpetrator, rather than
someone who is uncomfortable with the circumstances of the problem.

Management, as the author cites from time-to-time, hates this stuff. It's the fuzzy, mushy,
sissy-type, right-brained stuff managers have been trained to ignore and, in fact, remove from
their management skill set from the instant they begin their graduate school training. This
aversion is powerful. Management remains unwilling to learn even though there are important
and fairly frequent publicly embarrassing circumstances, which one might think would help
business leaders "get it." I refer to this as the "General Patton Syndrome." During World War
II, Major General George Patton slapped a soldier in a field hospital because the soldier ran
from battle. Patton called the man a "coward," a "sissy," and a "sympathizer." His single act
struck like thunderbolt throughout the military. General Patton was disciplined and made to
publicly apologize. Did it change the views of military leaders and commanders about
cowardice in battle? Probably not, but military leaders don't go around slapping solders
anymore, at least not in public.

Today's business managers still approach emotional issues and questions more like General
Patton - if you get emotional, you are disloyal, or malingering, or distracting yourself and
others from important efforts, and even, heaven forbid, sabotaging management's best efforts.

One of the most powerful concepts explored by Vali Hawkins Mitchell in this book is the
difference between arrogance and empathy. Today's managers are taught to be arrogant, that
is, to make decisions based on criteria that are totally objective (read "non-emotional") and
totally measurable and justifiable (read "fit a kind of dispassionate formula or structure"). This
results in behaviors and attitudes that are cold, hard, and so seemingly callous as to be
driven only by success measured in dollars, bonuses, and options.

What is management's excuse? Management has such difficulty answering this question that
they conduct a reactive exercise I call "Death by Question." How can you measure emotion?
How do you quantify empathy? How do you calculate the value of an apology? It's the old and
false notion that management is science. In fact, management is far more than science.

Arrogance is making decisions for others without their participation or permission. Empathy,
on the other hand, is frequently confused with sympathy, which is the verbalization of concern
or recognition that someone else is about to or is suffering something that the sympathetic
observer had no hand in and cannot help with. Empathy, in reality, is what is done to
alleviate, replace, or be the substitute for someone else's pain, suffering, agony, or emotional
distress. Saying we are sorry or that we recognize someone else's pain is meaningless and
often comes across as superficial and insincere.

Empathy is all about doing something for that individual, relieving the pain, solving the
problem, soothing the emotional distress, or even standing in the victim's place to suffer the
potential for danger or threat. This book is about being an empathetic manager - a manager
who acts with emotionally sensitive certainty then lets those actions speak for themselves.
The reader will find a variety of quizzes and self-analyses sufficient to determine their
management archetype: cold, arrogant, intrusive, abusive, reclusive; or, warm, effusive,
helpful, or empathetic.

This book is an eye-opener. There are many case histories with frequent efforts to connect
the type of manager and management behavior to forecast success or the need for more
effort. There is an interesting methodology for calculating the cost of emotional distress and
disturbance. There are lists and descriptions of all types of employees and managers, and
how to recognize the destructive emotional dislocations that category can cause.

This book and your guidance can help your boss prepare for changes in their personal
behavior and concept of management, fill a serious gap in their experience and training, and
truly become an "empathetic manager." - James E. Lukaszewski, ABC, APR, Fellow PRSA;
Chairman, The Lukaszewski Group.

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THE BUSINESS CONTINUITY INSTITUTE

"Vali Hawkins Mitchell has produced an unusual and authoritative work. Packed with case
study and "sound bytes," Vali will touch the corporate nerve and conscience. The words
addressing what it was really like for the people touched by the aftermath of the events of
9/11 are particularly telling.

"The Preface sums up very well what is to follow: "... Today's business managers still
approach emotional issues and questions more like General Patton - if you get emotional,
you are disloyal, or malingering, or distracting yourself and others from important efforts, and
even, heaven forbid, sabotaging management's best efforts."

"Vali upholds many of the principles you will find promoted and supported by the BCI and
encouraged as part of BCM good practice." - Julia Graham FBCI; Director of Risk
Management, DLA LLC (United Kingdom); Board of Directors, the Business Continuity
Institute.

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CONTENTS

PREFACE by James E. Lukaszewski
THE BUSINESS CONTINUITY INSTITUTE
DEDICATION
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
CONTENTS
THE LITTLE WARS by Vali Hawkins Mitchell
FIRST THOUGHTS
HOW TO READ THIS BOOK
SECTION I: READINESS — ROTATIONS, RECOGNITION AND RISKS
1 ROTATIONS: WHAT IS SPINNING?
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 1 You Should Be Able to
Overview
Management in the Midst of Emotional Chaos
Managers Are Site Disaster Officials
Can You Manage Managing?
Starting to Think about Emotions
Starting to Think about Managing Emotions
What Is Emotional Spinning?
Definitions
What Emotional Spinning Is Not
How to Know the Difference Between Spinning and Abuse and Violence
Workplace Spins Are like Emotional Tornados
Evaluating Workplace Spinning and Emotional Tornados
The Attributes of an Emotional Tornado
Volume
Speed
Force
Area (Crossing Boundaries)
Location
Point of Origin
Size
Range
Levels
Frequency
Duration
Dr. Vali's Emotional Tornado Scale©
How to Recognize a Spin
Signs, Clues and Hunches
Some Early, Recognizable Signs Of A Spin Risk
How to Pay Attention to Early Warning Signs
What Causes Emotional Spinning?
Why People Make Decisions to Spin
A Technical Way to View Spinning
Change Event
Examples Of Business Change
Social and Style Business Changes
Other Changes to Expect in the Next Decade
Now, Add the X Factors to Business Change
How to Think about an "X" Factor
Emotional Responses = Change + X
Adjusting to Change
Other Emotional Responses May Look like Spinning
Other Causes of Emotional Responses That Can Turn into Emotional Spins
Blame
The Gripes and Blame List
Internal and External Causes
Mental Health
Physical Health
Stress
Perceptions about Stress
Coping with Stress
Responding to Information about Stress
X Factors That We Call Stress
Burnout
Overt or Covert Causes
Author's Afterthoughts
Discussion Questions
2 RISKS: HOW DOES SPINNING AFFECT THE BOTTOM LINE?
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 2 You Should Be Able to
Overview
The Costs of Spinning
Some Of The Bottom Line Costs Of Spinning
Fiscal
Risk Equation: Figuring the Exact Cost of Emotions in the Workplace
Goodwill
Liability
Global Consequences
Other Costs of Spinning
The Costs of Protecting a Human Life
Costs of War Away from Home
Costs of Wars on the Home Front
Costs That Are Personal, Local, National, Global
Author's Afterthoughts
Discussion Questions

SECTION II: READINESS — REFRAMING, RESPONDING, AND REACTIONARIES
3 RECOGNITION: WHAT DOES SPINNING LOOK LIKE?
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 3 You Should Be Able to
Overview
Annoyances
Some Traits Of Well-Adjusted Employees
Violence
Dr. Vali's Heads-up List
Stress and Survival
Effects of Prior Trauma
Spin Stories
Mental Health Concepts for the Manager Diagnostician
The Healthy Car Analogy
The Dysfunctional Car Analogy
The Pathological Car Analogy
The Range of Healthy, Dysfunctional and Pathological Employees
Variables of Healthy, Dysfunctional and Pathological People
Orderly Disorders and Disorderly Disorders
How People Respond to Getting Help
Responses To Emotional Continuity Management Plans
Intuition and Improvisation
Author's Afterthoughts
Discussion Questions
4 REFRAMING: WHAT DO SPINNERS LOOK LIKE?
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 4 You Should Be Able to
Overview
Reframing Emotional Spinning
Reframing
Changing the Picture
Predators, Prey and Scavengers
General Workplace Zoo Guidelines
Costumes or Personalities
Reframing Categories of Employees
Goldfish
Sharks
Guppies
Dolphins
Turtles
Vultures
Snakes
Chameleons
Mis-Informants / Liars
Kinds Of Lies
Time Tyrants
Recognizing Tools And Weapons Of Time Tyrants
Mythological Spinners
The Trickster
The Vampire
The Pied Piper
The Succubus
The Incubus
The Shapeshifter
Rip (Or Rippleena) Van Winkle
Author's Afterthoughts
5 RESPONSES: HOW CAN YOU MANAGE SPINNING?
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 5 You Should Be Able to
Overview
Committing to Excellence
Steps To Excellence
Step 1: Deciding
Step 2: Prepare Yourself
Step 3: Establish Your Own Support System
Step 4: Preparing the System
Consider the Types of Witness
Minimum Requirements of an Emotional Continuity Management Toolkit
Step 5: Go For It
Step 6: Design Your Management Style and Program
Know the Difference Between Control, Force, Power, and Management
How to Manage Emotions
Emotional Continuity Management Transformation
Personal Transformation as a Positive Business Change
How to Become a Transformative Manager: Change Your Thinking and Take Action
Emotional Continuity Management Action Points
More Tips for Managing Emotions
Making the Emotional Continuity Management Plan
Introduction
How Some Organizations Have Approached Creating System-wide Emotional
Continuity Management
System-Wide Emotional Continuity Management Should Begin to Address These
Questions:
Buy-on Procedures Should Begin to Address These Questions
Steps for Writing an Emotional Continuity Management Plan
Emotional Continuity Management Checklist
The Hawkins-Mitchell Five-step Spin-free Workplace Training Model for
System-wide Emotional Continuity Management
Non-Violent Non-Spinning Responses To An Emotional Spin
Starting an Emotional Continuity Management Team
Constructing Your Team
Qualifications Checklist for Team Members, External Consultants, Emotional
Continuity Management Trainer, Services Provider
Constructing Your Team Notebook
Author's Afterthoughts
Discussion Questions
6 REACTIONARIES: HOW DO YOU MANAGE EMOTIONAL TERRORISTS?
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 6 You Should Be Able to
Overview
Kinds of Terrorism: International and Domestic Terrorism
Terrorists
Emotional Terrorism
Emotional Terrorism at Work
Attributes and Behaviors of the Emotional Terrorist
Example Of Differences In Motives For Wanting A Day Off
Examples Of Workplace Bulletproof Behaviors
Tools And Techniques Of An Emotional Terrorist
Warning Signs of Emotional Terrorism Activities
The Gotchas
Guidelines to Managing Emotional Terrorism
In What Do You Have Faith?
Managing an Emotional Terrorist
Some Tips To Deal With Emotional Terrorists
Running a Meeting with an Emotional Terrorist
Become an Expert in Using Communication Models
Author's Afterthoughts
Discussion Questions

SECTION III: READINESS — TOOLS FOR EMOTIONAL CONTINUITY MANAGEMENT
7 READINESS: TOOLS FOR MANAGING IN THE MIDST OF EMOTIONAL CHAOS
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 7 You Should Be Able to
What the Experts Say about Emotional Continuity Management Tools
How to Manage Feelings of Loss
How to Manage Tension
How to Set Boundaries
How to Normalize Acute Stress Reactions
How to Manage Grief: Yours and Others
How to Manage Inflexible Employees
How to Remain Neutral and Grounded
Managing Conflict or Threatening Emotions
A Conflict Resolution Management Checklist
Conflict Resolution 101 in Five Minutes
How to Use All Your Resources
Expand Your Data Base
The Emotional Continuity Management Quick-fix
How to Make a Toolkit for Managing Emotions
Minimum Ingredients of an Emotional Continuity Management Toolkit
How to Create an Evaluation Form for Emotions
Some Traits of Well-Adjusted Employees
The Range of Healthy, Dysfunctional, and Pathological Employees
How to Manage Emotions
What Is Your Duty to Warn?
Listening for Suicide Risk
Risk of Homicidal Behavior
The Drama Triangle
The Drama Triangle
How to Manage the Emotions of Others Through Defusing and Debriefing
The Enter and Exit Tool: a Compassionate "Back to Work" Model
Author's Afterthoughts
Discussion Questions
8 READINESS: TOOLS FOR MANAGING IN THE MIDST OF BUSINESS CHANGE
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 8 You Should Be Able to
What the Experts Say about Emotional Continuity Management Tools
Examples of Business Change
How to Evaluate Employee Readiness for Change
Author's Afterthoughts
Discussion Questions
9 READINESS: TOOLS FOR MANAGING IN THE MIDST OF SPINNING
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 9 You Should Be Able to
What the Experts Say about Emotional Continuity Management Tools
Dr. Vali's Emotional Tornado Scale
Observations on the Attributes of an Emotional Tornado
Some Early Recognizable Signs of a Spin
The "What's Up?" Checklist
What, Where, When, Who, How, Which, How many, How often?
How to Talk about Financial Issues Without Making a Spin
Calculating the Cost of Spinning
Author's Afterthoughts
Discussion Questions
10 READINESS: TOOLS FOR MANAGING IN THE MIDST OF EMOTIONAL TERRORISM
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 10 You Should Be Able to
What the Experts Say about Emotional Continuity Management Tools
Emotional Terrorism Early Warning Signs Checklist
Warning Signs of Emotional Terrorism Activities
Author's Afterthoughts
Discussion Questions
11 READINESS: TOOLS FOR MANAGEMENT SELF-CARE
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 11 You Should Be Able to
Self-care Questionnaire: Do I Want to Be a Manager?
How to Manage Your Own Self Care
Personal Toolkit
How to Enhance Your Emotional Value as a Manager
How to Manage a Self-Evaluation
How to Expand Your Emotional Vocabulary
Checklist for Maintaining Safe and Best Practices
The Faith Checklist
The "How Am I Doing?" Ethics Questionnaire
Author's Afterthoughts
12 READINESS: TOOLS FOR DEVELOPING AN EMOTIONAL MANAGEMENT
CONTINUITY PLAN
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 12 You Should Be Able to
What the Experts Say about Emotional Continuity Management Tools
Write or Rewrite the Mission Statement
What Are the Mission Statements of These Companies?
How to Write a Vision Statement
How to Create a Business Philosophy
A Rational Approach to "See All Work as Sacred Ground" Exercise
How to Develop a Working Management Theory
Examples of Management Theories
Examples of Emotional Continuity Management Theories
How to Write a Rule Book
A Sample Rulebook
How to Establish Criteria
How to Create a Backup Strategy
How to Make Hard Technical Data & Soft Technical Data Assessments
How to Create a Grading Policy
Making Anonymous Opinion Grade Report Cards
Documentation Can Be Your Best Friend
Simple Documentation Can Include Formal or Informal Notes
How to Document Emotional Terrorism
Documentation Example
How to Write a New Emotional Continuity Management Policy
Policy Writing Guidelines: (Not Laws)
How to Write an Anti-emotional Terrorism Policy
A "No-Spinning-Allowed" Policy
Emotional Continuity Management Trainings Checklist
Administrative Buy-on Evaluation
Qualifications Checklist for External Consultant or Emotional Continuity Management
Trainer or Services Provider
Steps for Writing a Quality Emotional Continuity Management Plan
Beginning an Emotional Continuity Management Team
How to See Past the Stages of Grieving to the Ongoing Stages of Recovery
Personnel Interview Form
Sample Scheduling Form for Mandatory Meetings
Author's Afterthoughts
13 READINESS: TOOLS FOR MANAGING INCIDENTS AND FOR DRILLING
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 13 You Should Be Able to
What the Experts Say about Emotional Continuity Management Tools
An Emotional Continuity Management Event Hot Sheet
Drill and Rehearsal Form
How to Set up a Drill
Tips for Success of Drills
How to Make an Emergency Assistance Resource List
Managing Before, During and after a Disaster
Phases of Disaster Planning to Consider
Increasing Competency of Your Own Emotional Continuity Management
Author's Afterthoughts
14 READINESS: TOOLS FOR MANAGING DIVERSITY IN A GLOBAL MARKETPLACE
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 14 You Should Be Able to
What the Experts Say about Emotional Continuity Management Tools
How to Begin Thinking about Diversity and Global Emotions
How to Do a Quick-check of Diversity Knowledge
Personal Diversity Inventory
The Hawkins-Mitchell "Potato Theory" for Brief Diversity Trainings
Author's Afterthoughts

SECTION IV: READINESS — RUBBLE, REHEARSAL AND RESOURCES
15 REDUCTIONS, RUINS, AND RUBBLE:WHEN ARE THE SPINS FROM DISASTERS THE
ULTIMATE SPIN?
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 15 You Should Be Able to
Overview
Changes Occurring with Disaster
Power
Work
Authority
Perceptions
Declaring a Disaster
Resources
Assistance Organizations
Types of Disasters
Natural Disasters
Man-Made
Corporate-Made Disaster
Layoffs
Outsourcing
Greed and Scandal
A Review Of Corporate Scandal
Other Disaster Data: Costs and Frequency
Emotional Continuity Management Before, During and after a Disaster
Managing Disaster Anniversaries
Author's Afterthoughts
Discussion Questions
Activity
16 REHEARSAL: WHY PLAN, EXERCISE, AND DRILL FOR THE UNEXPECTED?
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 16 You Should Be Able to
Overview
Drills
Drills and Rehearsals for Emotions
How to Set up a Drill for Emotional Continuity Management
Tips for Success of Drills
Creating a Space for Emergency Emotions
Author's Afterthoughts
Discussion Questions
17 RESOURCES: DO YOU HAVE GOOD INFORMATION?
Why You Should Read this Chapter
By the End of Chapter 17 You Should Be Able to
Overview
Life-long Learning
References
Web Sites
Assessment Tools
TOPICAL BIBLIOGRAPHY
BUSINESS TOPICS
BUSINESS CHANGE
DIVERSITY
ETHICS
ANGER AND VIOLENCE
SEXUAL HARASSMENT
WRITING FOR SELF CARE
TRANSFORMATION AND PEACEBUILDING
ADDICTION AND RECOVERY
RELATIONSHIPS
SEXUAL ISSUES
PARENTING
PROSPERITY
PET LOSS
MYTHOLOGY
DISASTER AND TRAUMA
ADULT ADD AND ADHD
CHILDREN'S BOOKS: Ethics and Problem Solving
TRADITIONAL FABLES
AUTHOR'S AFTERTHOUGHTS
NEXT-TO-THE-LAST THOUGHTS
APPENDIX I: THE HAWKINS-MITCHELL SPIN-FREE WORKPLACE MODEL FOR
SYSTEM-WIDE EMOTIONAL CONTINUITY MANAGEMENT
Introduction
How Some Organizations Have Approached Creating System-wide Emotional Continuity
Management
System-Wide Emotional Continuity Management Should Begin to Address These
Questions
Buy-On Procedures Should Begin to Address These Questions
Steps for Writing an Emotional Continuity Management Plan
Emotional Continuity Management Checklist
The Hawkins-Mitchell Five Step Spin-free Workplace Training Model for System-wide
Emotional Continuity Management
Track the Movement and Contagion of an Emotional Incident Through a System
Starting an Emotional Continuity Management Team
Qualifications Checklist for Team Members, External Consultants, Emotional Continuity
Management Trainers, Services Providers
Constructing Your Team Notebook
Disaster Emotional Continuity Management Checklist
Emotional Continuity Management Event Hot Sheet
How to Set up a Drill
Tips for Success of Drills
Drill and Rehearsal Checklist
Emergency Assistance Resource List
Sample Scheduling Form for Mandatory Meetings
APPENDIX II: SUMMARY: WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW TO MANAGE EMOTIONAL
TERRORS IN THE WORKPLACE AND TO PROTECT YOUR BUSINESS' BOTTOM LINE
ABOUT THE PUBLISHER
ABOUT THE AUTHOR

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“Reasonable variations of human emotions are expected at the workplace. People have
feelings. Emotions that accumulate, collect force, expand in volume and begin to spin are
another matter entirely. Spinning emotions can become as unmanageable as a tornado, and
in the workplace they can cause just as much damage in terms of human distress and
economic disruption.

“All people have emotions. Normal people and abnormal people have emotions. Emotions
happen at home and at work. So, understanding how individuals or groups respond
emotionally in a business situation is important in order to have a complete perspective of
human beings in a business function. Different people have different sets of emotions. Some
people let emotions roll off their back like water off a duck. Other people swallow emotions
and hold them in until they become toxic waste that needs a disposal site. Some have small
simple feelings and others have large, complicated emotions. Stresses of life tickle our
emotions or act as fuses in a time bomb. Stress triggers emotion. Extreme stress
complicates the wide range of varying emotional responses. Work is a stressor. Sometimes
work is an extreme stressor.

“Since everyone has emotion, it is important to know what kinds of emotion are regular and
what kinds are irregular, abnormal, or damaging within the business environment. To build a
strong, well-grounded, value-added set of references for professional discussions and
planning for Emotional Continuity Management a manager needs to know at least the basics
about human emotion. Advanced knowledge is preferable.

“Emotional Continuity Management planning for emotions that come from the stress caused
by changes inside business, from small adjustments to catastrophic upheavals, requires
knowing emotional and humanity-based needs and functions of people and not just
technology and performance data. Emergency and Disaster Continuity planners sometimes
posit the questions, "What if during a disaster your computer is working, but no one shows
up to use it? What if no one is working the computer because they are terrified to show up to
a worksite devastated by an earthquake or bombing and they stay home to care for their
children?" The Emotional Continuity Manager asks, "What if no one is coming or no one is
producing even if they are at the site because they are grieving or anticipating the next wave
of danger? What happens if employees are engaged in emotional combat with another
employee through gossip, innuendo, or out-and-out verbal warfare? And what if the entire
company is in turmoil because we have an Emotional Terrorist who is just driving everyone
bonkers?" The answer is that, in terms of bottom-line thinking, productivity is productivity —
and if your employees are not available because their emotions are not calibrated to your
industry standards, then fiscal risks must be considered. Human compassion needs are
important. And so is money.

“Employees today face the possibility of biological, nuclear, incendiary, chemical, explosive,
or electronic catastrophe while potentially working in the same cubicle with someone ready to
suicide over personal issues at home. They face rumors of downsizing and outsourcing while
watching for anthrax amidst rumors that co-workers are having affairs. An employee coughs,
someone jokes nervously about SARS, or teases a co-worker about their hamburger coming
from a Mad Cow, someone laughs, someone worries, and productivity can falter as minds are
not on tasks. Emotions run rampant in human lives and therefore at work sites. High-demand
emotions demonstrated by complicated workplace relationships, time-consuming divorce
proceedings, addiction behaviors, violence, illness, and death are common issues at work
sites which people either manage well — or do not manage well. Low-demand emotions
demonstrated by annoyances, petty bickering, competition, prejudice, bias, minor power
struggles, health variables, politics and daily grind feelings take up mental space as well as
emotional space.
It is reasonable to assume that dramatic effects from a terrorist attack, natural disaster,
disgruntled employee shooting, or natural death at the work site would create emotional
content. That content can be something that develops, evolves and resolves, or gathers
speed and force like a tornado to become a spinning energy event with a life of its own. Even
smaller events, such as a fully involved gossip chain or a computer upgrade can lead to the
voluntary or involuntary exit of valuable employees. This can add energy to an emotional spin
and translate into real risk features such as time loss, recruitment nightmares, disruptions in
customer service, additional management hours, remediations and trainings, consultation
fees, Employee Assistance Program (EAP) dollars spent, Human Resources (HR) time
spent, administrative restructuring, and expensive and daunting litigations. Companies that
prepare for the full range of emotions and therefore emotional risks, from annoyance to
catastrophe, are better equipped to adjust to any emotionally charged event, small or large. It
is never a question of if something will happen to disrupt the flow of productivity, it is only a
question of when and how large.

“Emotions that ebb and flow are functional in the workplace. A healthy system should be able
to manage the ups and downs of emotions. Emotions directly affect the continuity of
production and services, customer and vendor relations and essential infrastructure. Unstable
emotional infrastructure in the workplace disrupts business through such measurable costs
as medical and mental health care, employee retention and retraining costs, time loss, or
legal fees. Emotional Continuity Management is reasonably simple for managers when they
are provided the justifiable concepts, empirical evidence that the risks are real, a set of
correct tools and instructions in their use. What has not been easy until recently has been
convincing the "powers that be" that it is value-added work to deal directly and procedurally
with emotions in the workplace. Businesses haven't seen emotions as part of the working
technology and have done everything they can do to avoid the topic. Now, cutting-edge
companies are turning the corner. Even technology continuity managers are talking about
human resources benefits and scrambling to find ways to evaluate feelings and risks.

“Yes, times are changing. Making a case for policy to manage emotions is now getting
easier. For all the pain and horror associated with the terrorist attacks of September 11,
2001, employers are getting the message that no one is immune to crisis. In today's
heightened security environments the demands of managing complex workplace emotions
have increased beyond the normal training supplied by in-house Human Resources (HR)
professionals and Employee Assistance Plans (EAPs). Many extremely well-meaning HR
and EAP providers just do not have a necessary training to manage the complicated strata of
extreme emotional responses. Emotions at work today go well beyond the former standards
of HR and EAP training. HR and EAP providers now must have advanced trauma
management training to be prepared to support employees. The days of easy emotional
management are over. Life and work is much too complicated.

“Significant emotions from small to extreme are no longer the sole domain of HR, EAP, or
even emergency first responders and counselors. Emotions are spinning in the very midst of
your team, project, cubicle, and company. Emotions are not just at the scene of a disaster.
Emotions are present. And because they are not "controllable," human emotions are not
subject to being mandated. Emotions are going to happen.

“There are many times when emotions cannot be simply outsourced to an external provider of
services. There are many times that a manager will face an extreme emotional reaction.
Distressed people will require management regularly. That's your job! Your job today includes
acquiring the skills necessary to know when you can manage emotions yourself, when you
are way over your head, and when you need to call for backup. Emotional Continuity
Management is a collection of ideas and skills supported by scientifically designed tools that
help you manage, not control, human emotions.

“Many twenty-first century organizations are beginning to agree that, to be comprehensive,
Business Continuity Planning must include managing people's emotions. They are
discovering that a system-wide approach to creating an emotionally spin-free workplace,
means preparing themselves and all employees for potential emotional impact, thus lowering
the risks of collective system-wide spinning. This planning also prepares everyone for rapid
recovery no matter the size or conditions of the impact event. Organizations that develop
Emotional Continuity policy, procedures, practice drills, multiple resources, and management
tools are more ready to withstand whatever comes along with a healthy rapid-recovery
mentality. Good days are good. Bad days are bad. But what happens if things go terribly,
terribly, terribly bad? Then what?

MANAGEMENT IN THE MIDST OF EMOTIONAL CHAOS

“When there is a local, regional, state or national disaster, some official has to "call" it a
disaster. Governmental agencies are generally responsible for officially "declaring" when an
event is of worthy merit to be defined within the rigorous guidelines and definitions to qualify
an event or incident as a "declared" disaster. These official standards and markers control
funding, emergency relief services, public assistance, debris clearance, repair, demolitions,
replacements, housing, loans, grants, counseling, health care services, search and rescue,
transportation, mass care, mutual aid, changing regulations, tax relief, restoration costs,
corpse removals, some litigations and legal implications and exemptions, and immediate and
long term financial support or relief. In other words, if it is a "REAL" disaster, it counts for
something and procedures are put in place to aid recovery. Rapid recovery happens only after
the official has decided it is officially official. Sometimes this happens with astonishing rapid
speed and other times it can take what seems like a lifetime. In the meantime, people may
be waiting and can be terribly upset and distressed. They know it was a disaster because
they are sitting in the rubble that used to be their organized lives.

CASE EXAMPLE
“The earthquake hit at 8:34 a.m. The epicenter was on the west side of Washington State
which was declared an official disaster. FEMA (Federal Emergency Management Agency)
was on the scene quickly to give support and manage media coverage. Teams evaluated
damage and made dollar assessments. Across the state, on the east side of the mountains,
the earthquake was recorded as minor and these counties were not within the official disaster
area. They did not qualify for FEMA response.

“The Skinners, who lived in a rural county, discovered that their driveway, the only entrance to
their home and their home-based business, had buckled. The way the highway was set, their
customer-based productivity depended on the turn-around in their driveway off the highway.
Someone suggested the earthquake might have caused it. This idea had not occurred to
them so they began making phone calls. No one had claimed any damage in the county. As
channels began to shift, FEMA was suspicious but officially polite and came to their home to
evaluate. After seeing the damage, the FEMA representative did a thorough investigation and
discovered that their brick home had been split down the middle. The representative was clear
that indeed this was earthquake damage and helped them file a report. Within 24 hours the
county had received FEMA's report and was declared an official disaster area. Other people
started calling with damage reports of disrupted hot water heaters, cracked fences, well
damage, and various effects of the tremblor. The Skinners received a check from FEMA that
helped pay for the repair of the driveway. FEMA paid $732.00 for the driveway. The damage
from disrupted services was a loss of approximately $24,000 in revenue.

“Learning Byte: The Skinners were happy with FEMA. Their representatives were courteous
and professional and didn't treat the couple like they were trying to bilk the system. But they
did wait a long time to get financial help. The neighbors, who had waited longer to report,
became angry that FEMA had not come sooner and rallied together in angry meetings.
Several home businesses and farms had delays, loss of productivity, and additional expenses
incurred prior to the official declaration of disaster.

“DO THIS: Learn how disasters are officially declared in your city, county, and state. New
Homeland Security regulations may determine how disaster services work in your area.
“DON'T: Make assumptions without good information, and don't wait too long to ask for help.”

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EXCERPT

“I was born in the middle of a 7.1 earthquake and so have always felt that I had some
proprietary ownership of disaster in general. I managed in a variety of professional and
personal roles during earthquakes, floods, range fires, tornadoes, typhoons, winter storms,
and volcanic eruptions. I lived 35 miles away from Mt. St. Helens when she blew her top the
first time. I live near a river that is wild and floods on a fairly regular basis. I live in the shadow
of a nuclear site and a chemical weapons depot that are only a few miles from my front door.
I experienced direct assault as an act of terrorism when I was in Asia in the 1971. A military
guard set vicious guard dogs on me as we walked on a public beach. The soldiers were
amused as the dogs bit through my boots. Later that same year I saw the aftermath of a
plane that had been used as a weapon to fly into the home of a national leader. That one
didn't ever make the news.

“When my daughter died unexpectedly, followed within a couple of weeks by the sudden
death of my mother, I was sure that I had more knowledge than many about surviving duress
and disaster. I went back to work but how I managed those days was not the same as
before. When I went to work as a trauma counselor directly following the attacks of
September 11, 2001, I experienced more than anticipated. The dynamics and complications
associated with disaster and terrorism were beyond even my amazing imagination. But I had
my first trauma flashback as I recalled the horrifying day I was notified of my daughter's
death, which was also on a September 11th.

“I was a well-trained professional with depth experiences in trauma management, disaster,
Critical Incident Stress Management, Red Cross Disaster Mental Health Services,
Psychotraumatology, advanced degrees and lots of direct experience…and I got to feel more
and learn more! My learning curve for disasters includes knowing without a shadow of a doubt
the following truths:
- Disasters are sacred, because they hold places for miracles
- Disasters are scary, because they are bigger than me
- You can never learn enough to know everything to be perfectly prepared
- You cannot really prepare for the unimaginable
- You cannot control disasters, but you can manage the aftermath
- Most Disasters are natural
- Unnatural disasters create the exact same emotions as natural disasters
- Disasters are only truly disastrous if you have no meaning in your life
- Disasters are completely unpredictable
- People are completely unpredictable
- Life is amazing and fun and divine and odd and scary and miraculous and messy and
painful and silly and wonderful and short, and disasters are part of life
- I have a lot more to learn about disasters, and management, so stay tuned.”

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

VALI HAWKINS MITCHELL, Ph.D., LMHC is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and holds
a Doctorate in Health Education. She consults nationally in the field of Emotional Continuity
Management and has pioneered the development of this field
(www.emotionalcontinuitymanagement.com). Two decades of disaster work — in the shadow
of Mount St. Helens, the Hanford Nuclear Site and the Umatilla Chemical Weapons Depot —
have provided her unique perspectives on the emotional nature of disaster planning.

Her assignments at numerous incidents include serving at the site of the World Trade Center
attacks. She has served as co-clinical director of the Southeast Washington Critical Incident
Stress Management team and is a member of the Disaster Services Human Resources
System with the American Red Cross. Providing advanced trainings in trauma and disaster
management, dispute resolution, critical-care health topics, and Emotional Terror in the
workplace has kept her busy serving a wide range of industries and employees with a unique
"been there, done that" style. The highest praise she has received has been from first
responders who have recognized her contributions and style as authentic by pronouncing her
"one of us."

Author of Dr. Vali's Survival Guide: Tips for the Journey and a series of children's books on
Trauma Management and Dispute Resolution, Dr. Vali is also a Family Trauma Counselor
providing services to hospitals, medical facilities, physicians, nurses, and families dealing
with medical trauma. Co-owner of Inner Directions, LLP, she maintains a busy private
counseling practice. (www.DrVali.com).

Also active in the arts, she is the founder and Executive Director of the Kirsha Foundation
(www.Kirshafoundation.org), a non-profit organization that provides free access to the arts for
youth age birth to 26, and is co-owner of the Tri-Art Sculpture Gallery (www.triartgallery.com)
with her business partner and husband David Mitchell. Currently living in Richland,
Washington surrounded by a cherry orchard on the bank of the Yakima River, when she isn't
kayaking or trying to save a tree in her yard that has become eagle habitat, she teaches
workshops and consults with businesses using the methods outlined in this book.

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ISBN 1-931332-27-4
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